Wanna be Rich? Change Attitude First !

If you want to be rich, I mean financially wealthy, you have to have the attitude before anything else. According to Meriam-Webster, attitude is “a mental position with regard to a fact or state” or simply put how we perceive about anything that happening around us. So, it’s actually about your  mindset ! But what the relation between mindset and richness? Why attitude or mindset is more important than everything else ? Let’s take a quick drive….

Internal Conflict

First thing to deal with is internal conflict. Imagine that you say you want to be very rich (means have a lot of more money than what you need) but your attitude toward money is not the one the riches has, then you will never be rich although you actually have the opportunity. For example:

• you’ve been taught that “money is root of all evil” , then how come you want to be rich and have all these evils around you? You have internal conflict.
• you’ve been believing that “money cannot buy happiness”, then since you want to be happy as well, why bother to have a lot of money if it cannot give you happiness. You have internal conflict.
• you’ve been told that “money is hard to get” or “you have to work hard to earn money” then if you have given a way to produce “easy money”, your subconscious will rebel against you. You have internal conflict.

If you have internal conflict, then the great mind of human will try to automatically resolve the conflict internally, means subconsciously, using all of method available. This is the critical area when you can sabotage your own work, make silly decision that you will never make in other circumstances,  or even simply give you frustration. And when this happen, you will not get richer, you probably end up in worse condition.

Crush Your Conflict

That’s why before do anything else, you need to crush your conflict first and change your attitude toward money. Doing it before you do anything else will reduce significantly the risk that you will do some damage (financially) to yourself. How do we crush our own conflict ? By challenging head on the reason of the conflict.

You need to be able to question and get the real answer of all the conflict that bug you. For example, let crush the conflict we have above:

• Let’s think about “money is root of all evil” , we can see people kill for money, wife divorces husband for money, people doing crime to get money or people do nasty thing because they have money. Well, all true and real.But now, let’s look at the other side, can money heal people (by funding a research that found a cure)? can money bring family back together in happiness? Can people doing charity giving away money ? Can people do a lot of fabulous thing because they have money (that will not possible if they don’t have much?
  Of course, it can. So, you can see money can be used for bad thing and good thing. Is it the money itself ? Or actually the human being that hold it who have decision power ? Yes, it’s the people. People is the one make it bad or good. Not the money.
• Let’s think about “money cannot buy happiness“. If you hear this quote… the chances are you hear if from somebody who is not rich or if the person is rich then either he/she doesn’t know where to shop or doesn’t want you to be rich. Joking aside,  happiness has nothing to do with the amount of money you have. You will be happy if  “what you get and what you expect are in alignment”. If it’s not, then you can either reducing your expectation or increasing your effort to reach the goal. Rich people can be happy and not be happy. Poor people can be happy or not happy. Everyone in between can be happy or not, regardless of the money. See, again this saying was false, it’s not relevant.
• “Money is hard to get” or “you have to work hard to earn money” is very easily get crushed. Just watch and sit beside any successful day trader. Just with 2 mouse click, you can turn $1000 into $2000 literally within 2-5 minutes.. This is exactly what “fast money” really means. Of course they can loose that amount as well, but that’s depend on their trading plan and their risk mitigation. The most important point here is, say you have this believe and then doing the day trader, the internal conflict will bring you down or sabotage your trading plan without you really know it.

What To Do Next

So, now that you have decided that you want to be rich (or richer), take a good time, half hour or so, to sit down and imagine that when you are really rich, what the people will tell you (because this is the one that already inside your head). List it down, write it on the paper. Then for each of them, you need to find the real reason why the statement is not true. Write this in your journal for future reference. If you cannot find the answer, find a friend, or better yet put your question below in comment section and we can discuss it together!

Only if you have done this little exercise, then you can start embarking the real work to get those money for your future richness. You will be in much better probability that you will achieve your goal with the right attitude toward money.

Hope this helps!

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